Hello my friend,
I've been facing a problem.
Things felt uncertain.
I was wishing they were different.
I was frustrated and found myself wanting more.
Then I remembered something critical to shift me out thinking that way.
Everything I have right now I only dreamed about some years ago.
Including the problems of today.
You see, we move the goalposts in our life.
The life and many of the things we could only dream about several years ago, many of us are living or have right now.
But what we do, what the brain likes to do, is move the needle to what is now good enough or acceptable.
What happens is that once we obtain a life or a situation that we could only wish for not so long ago, we move the goalposts.
Suddenly the life we're now living doesn’t feel quite good enough anymore.
We shift our attention to the next thing we need or want.
If or when, we tell ourselves, we have that thing, all will be well again.
Why do we do this?
Because we create the idea that the next thing or certain circumstance will give us the feelings that we want.
We believe they will give us the happiness and the joy we crave.
Or remove all the stress.
So when we have that next thing, or when we achieve that goal, or when our circumstances change, we will then feel them or have a reason to do so.
But this is a lie.
And we know it.
Because we have told ourselves this same story many times before.
We seek and find our ‘today’ problems.
Without remembering a little while back we would have traded plenty to be exactly where we are now.
We start to believe a lie that we couldn’t possibly have much to be happy or joyful about right now.
Really? Like we need an excuse to be so.
Spoiler alert: We don’t.
The truth is most of us do have so much right in front of us that is well worth celebrating.
That is well worth being grateful for.
Things that we once only hoped or dreamed for.
Things also that we may not have again and certainly won’t have forever.
Those that are available to us today.
These are the days.
Not “those were the days” or “that will be the day…”
No, “these are the days”.
Not then, not in the future, right now.
Something to keep in mind.
Thank you for reading.
With Love, Nick.
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